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Its How You Look At It

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A few years back I was talking or should I say whinging to a friend about a few things that were driving me nuts.  She listened attentively for a while and quietly said to me, look,  from what I understand, you can't change these things so why not change how you look at them instead?  That makes absolute sense, right?

For example, we all talk about the habits we don't like much about our partners and would love them to change,  till we have kids who behave exactly like them, then that habit is no longer an issue because we so love that child and we begin to accept the whole package.  How about when we are at work and feel as if we are doing a lot while others are having fun?  Unfair, isn't it?  Well, if we were to change how we look at it, it would be something like this "I am getting paid for this job and I will not look at what others are doing."  As hubby always says to me, fault is everywhere and if I want to find something to be angry about its easy, but I don't see it because I am not looking.

Today's outfit I wore to the shops over the weekend.  Let me know what you think in the comments box.  Thank you for reading and have a lovely week!!!
Outfit Details:
Top: Forever New
Shorts: Target
Shoes: Wittner
Watch: Invicta
Earrings: Gift 
Headscarf: Custom Made

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  1. you are right, if we cant change those things, no need getting worked up just change how you look at it. Nice outfit by the way very simple.

  2. I wish I had your weather. You look laid-back pretty!! Love the kente touch. :)


  3. I love white. You look so relaxed and effervescent in this adorable outfit.

  4. Love your white outfit! The shoes are cute too!
    Pretty head wrap!

  5. Great looks! such a personal approach to styling. The best of both worlds!

  6. you head scarf is adorable and I love your all white outfit!

  7. I wonder how you tied that beautiful scarf. It must be quite difficult. Nice outfit!

  8. You look stunning in snow white, Elsie! And I always adore when you wear your gorgeous headscarves, such brilliant colors! I agree that our point of view is all that matters in difficult situations. xxx

  9. Cute outfit! Love the headscarf. Its really how you look at it, we have to accept things we cannot change in order to be happy!

  10. I think your outfit is perfect for mid summer, Elsie. White is always so good in the heat and your headwrap just sets the whole thing off. I agree with your sentiments, life is never perfect but what we make it. Have a good week.

  11. Great look, lovely pictures :)

    Thanks for sharing at Creative Mondays

  12. Pretty look. I agree with you, things we cannot change. No need to worry our self. http://sophialastyles.blogspot.co.uk/

  13. You are such a stylish beauty, my dear Elsie, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
    Thank you sooooooooooooooo much for sharing your style

  14. simple yet gorgeous

  15. I agree about things you can't change. "It is what it is", as I always like to say. Lovely look and I'm really starting to like these type of shoes.

    Kreyola Jounerys | Instagram

  16. It's time to vote on Share in Style, dear friend.

  17. You look spectacular! You can't know how envious I am sometimes of your tall, exotic-to-me elgance, and how well you wear such beautiful colors. Again, you are such a beauty.
    Another subject ... I'm learning a new camera (no blog this week from me because of it ... ) and hope you'll tell me what camera formats your photographer uses. Would you mind telling me if your glowy-filter is done in-camera before downloading or after with a photo editor? (Or perhaps the glow is natural-all-your-own-from deep-within your own pretty self?) Digital camera or SLR? Focal length on lens? I'd appreciate the info ... I'm struggling a bit!

    1. Hi Jan, thank you so much for always leaving such sweet comments that make me blush so hard you would not believe it. Our camera is a Sony Alpha SLT-A58 DSLR Camera with 18-55mm Lens Kit. Hubby sets the focus to AF(Automatic Autofocus Mode) most of the time, and only does manual with the close-up photos. I do all my editing with picmonkey. I auto adjust, then crop, then soften. Depending on the lighting I set the softness anywhere between 15 and 20% and fade at 50%.Hope this helps Jan and looking forward to your next fantastic post. xo

    2. Thank you! Nice of you to share! I'm having to move my "spot" for on-the-way-out-the-door snaps that we make on Sundays. I moved up to a Canon EOS M mirrorless system, and my only current lens is the same, an 18-55mm. Lovely lens, but I now need more distance between me and the camera to eliminate the width distortion ( under no circumstance do I need more width. Anywhere.) That forces me to move back so far I'd fall off the 3" porch drop. So I'm dinking around with places to shoot ... uncomfortable, difficult, but undoubtedly good for me.
      Your information helps a lot! Good old PicMonkey ... I love your result! There's a an otherworldly quality about your photos that I find wonderful.
      Woo hooo .... I found out I can "soften" in-camera, after the shot editing. How fun is this?
      I'm seriously going to use it, 'cause these better quality image really show off all my worst flaws! Not sure I want all this reality.
      So kind of you, Elsie. I'll look better because of your help!

  18. Looking terribly good. Love the lacy top. White is so nice against your beautiful ebony skin. And the folding of the scarf is pure art. Gorgeous colours.
    (Found you through Share-in-Style.)

  19. you look amazing! I love this white outfit and it makes that wonderful turban scarf stand out even more.

    I agree with you...how we look at things makes a great difference.


  20. You look Lovely in this all white outfit and we have to start Loving the Life we choose to Live!!

  21. Looking at things in a different way is a good method for a happy living! ( though sometimes it isn't easy )
    Your white look is very nice and you have a wonderful smile!

  22. Great perspective, Elsie. Your outfit looks so comfortable. How I wish I was in a warm climate!


  23. So fresh and summer! You are glowing in this outfit. I too am a big believer in the power of attitude and use such strategies often. I would simply rather be happy than miserable. xo

  24. You look absolutely stunning in white and I love your headscarf.

  25. This is absolutely true. I've learned that lesson over the years, nowadays I am much more patient and not as easily riled up by random things.

    Your top is beautiful, love the crisp white, the crotchet details and the cut. The pattern of your headscarf is gorgeous as well.

    Thank you for linking up to #reasonstodress when I was co-hosting :)

    Have a great week!

    Alex - Funky Jungle


Thanks for checking out my blog and leaving me a comment. I love reading your views as they inspire me to continue doing this blog. Love Elsie

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